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Proud to be a Working Mom

October 5, 2008

I am sorry for those of you that are worried about me now… please don’t. I know that this post is totally out of character for me. I wrote this because yes, I was upset, but more importantly, because I want others to know that the most important thing that I can do for myself and my family is to follow what I believe is God’s plan for me, and that goes for any of us. Who’s to say what anyone else should be doing?

This isn’t about what someone did or said to me. This is about another Christian making a comment that others will read which I feel was incorrect and not based upon His word.

So, I searched the word to find a scripture that would help this make sense to me and to you, and I came to 1 Corinthians 2:6-16. Here Paul talks about the wisdom given to us through the Spirit. He says in verses 13-16:

“This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom, but in words taught by the Spirit, expressing spiritual truths in spiritual words. The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned. The spiritual man makes judgements about all things, but he himself is not subject to any man’s judgement: “For who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct him?” But we have the mind of Christ.”

Because of this scripture, I know that I am the only one who knows what God has called me to do and therefore I should not be judged for that decision. And, I have no way of knowing what God has asked of you, and therefore I cannot judge you.

My relationship with Christ is the most important thing in my life. Other than that relationship, my life is dedicated to Trey and Chloe. I am blessed beyond imagination to share life with my sweet baby girl and her dad, the best dad in the world.

I prayed a lot, and I mean A LOT about the decision to go back to work, and in the end, I just knew that God had me teaching for a reason. I am thankful that I get to be the best mom to Chloe 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and also I get the chance to make a difference in 18 eight- year-olds‘ lives every day. Wow. What a calling and what a blessing.

Just because I am not physically taking care of her every moment of every day does not make me a bad mom, a bad person, someone who has “missed their calling as a mom”. Instead, this makes me a better mom. I am fulfilling my passion and calling to make a positive impact on kids’ lives– not just my own child. Chloe is loving daycare. And those three ladies keeping care of her have a calling too- to love on my daughter so I can love on my kids at school. She is happy when I pick her up and I look forward to nothing more than seeing that smile on her face when I arrive. I spend the afternoons and evenings and weekends with a 7 month old attached to my hip, and those are the very best parts of my week. BUT, I also love my job. I love what it stands for, and I love that I can be secure enough in my relationship with the Lord to realize that His plan for my life is what matters. Yes, he has blessed me with a daughter, a healthy baby girl. But my life— actually God living life through me– is much more than being a mom! He has called me to be a working mom, and I can say that without a doubt, I know I am doing the right thing.

Of course, I am not saying that staying at home is not wonderful too. I am only saying that for me, for now, this is what I am supposed to do.

17 Comments leave one →
  1. October 5, 2008 1:48 pm

    >Sherry, I’m so sorry that whatever happened or whatever someone said happened to you…but good for you for standing up for yourself!You don’t have to publish this or anything, I was just checking in.

  2. October 5, 2008 1:59 pm

    >Goodness, I am sorry if someone made you questions your working/not working. Of course you are a great mom and a great teacher. There is room for both!

  3. October 5, 2008 2:02 pm

    >I second, third, fourth, fifth, etc. that. Great post. It irritates me when stay at home moms act like they are much better mothers because they simply “stay at home”. Being a mom is way more than being at home. You are a great example to others and especially Chloe for not only knowing what God has called you to do, but doing it. You rock!

  4. October 5, 2008 2:24 pm

    >And I am proud of you! I support you all the way, and not just because I am a working mom. I know how hard it is to make that decision and I know you did not take it lightly.BTW, I am always here if you need a friend to talk to. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now.Love ya

  5. October 5, 2008 3:32 pm

    >Amen! I am so blessed that I can go to a job that I love, contribute to our household, and have my own identity that comes with investing in other people besides just my children. My girls LOVE their time with their sitter and I am a better Mom to them because I get a little away time to myself which every Mom needs. Every person has to make the best decision for their family, and as long as you are spending what time you have with your children being the best parent you can be to them, then that is all that matters!

  6. October 5, 2008 4:01 pm

    >amen! sherry i think it is wonderful that the Lord has placed such a strong calling in your life.. its awesome that you are so secure in the Lord that you know you are doing what you are supposed to be doing. I can see what you wrote this post, and i just want to encourage you to keep doing what you are doing and don’t let negative thoughts or what seem people may say affect you. just keep depending on the LOrd… that is all that matters!!! love ya girl!!!!!

  7. October 5, 2008 7:55 pm

    >I just want you to know that I think what you are doing is great! Don’t let anyone let you think differently. God calls each of us to different things, none of them better than the other. I am proud of you!

  8. October 5, 2008 9:27 pm

    >I don’t know you, but came across your blog a while back and really appreciate this post. I do not have kids, but hope to some day and have always envisioned myself as a stay-at-home mom. I never looked down on working mothers, just didn’t see it for myself. Your post, however, has reminded me that what I think I want isn’t always what God wants for me and that when I have kids someday, I need to spend a lot of time praying about that decision and figure out what HE wants me to do. Also, if you read Proverbs 31 (the description of a noble wife) she is a mother AND an extremely hard worker!! She “works with eager hands” and “considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard” and “she sets about her work vigorously” and “sees that her trading is profitable”. Maintaining a home, raising a family, and keeping a full time job cannot be easy, but you seem to do it well!

  9. October 5, 2008 10:42 pm

    >I am so glad there are all kinds of moms! We need them all — ones that stay home to take care of our lil ones and ones that go to work to take care of big ones and ones that go to work to make the world go round! And the best kind of mom is the one who is doing what the Lord has told them whatever that may be! Thank goodness we can have confidence knowing God is in control of what he plans for us!

  10. October 6, 2008 9:53 am

    >I think I’m blessed to stay at home with my girls BUT I DO NOT judge moms that do work. It’s a personal choice and no one has the right to judge you or any other working mom. You have to do what’s best for you and your own family.

  11. October 6, 2008 5:28 pm

    >Sherry, I found this poem in Granny's old Bible which was at G&P's house. It has encouraged me to make my decisions not based on what others say, and to be secure that if I need to change my course, He will show me as I diligently seek Him daily. You know I support you and love you sooooo much!!! Do not let your heart be troubled by what others say. And let us remember how it makes us feel to be judged so harshly, so we may treat others with compassion. Here's Granny's poem. I don't know if she wrote it or copied it into her Bible.Has He deserted heavenAnd left it up to youTo judge if this or that is rightAnd what each one should do?I think He's still in business,Knows when to wield the rod; So when you're judging othersJust remember: you're not God.Simple, but for me, very encouraging (and convicting!)Those who seek God's ways WILL walk His paths. The Bible is clear about that!

  12. October 6, 2008 8:37 pm

    >The fact that you balance both a career and a family so well lets me know that I will be able to find similar balance – and peace with my decisions – in January. Fully utilizing the talents you’ve been given is the greatest way to serve. I think you are to be commended!

  13. October 9, 2008 1:02 pm

    >Preach on Girlfriend!! Life is SO MUCH better when you are following God’s calling and will for YOU! I’m glad you are obedient to HIS plan for you. I LOVE working and I know it’s where God has me and that’s what’s most important. I do think he calls some to stay home and some to work but in the big picture, His will is being met!

  14. October 11, 2008 9:51 am

    >Hi Sherry,I often read your blog. Not sure how I came across it, but I do like to read it now and then. I just read your post with tears in my eyes. I am a stay at home mom to three boys. I feel it is what God called me to do 10 years ago after the birth of our first boy. I love staying at home, but some days long to be with grow ups again.Anyway, the reason I am writing is to tell you that I am so thankful that Christian women who are teachers are still teaching. If all the Christian women stayed home, what would happen to the school system? If God has called you to continue teaching, then there is a huge purpose in it. I, for one, am so grateful for the Godly women who teach my sons everyday. If they did not have Godly teachers in their lives, it would be very hard for us to send them to school.So take heart in what you are doing. It is a very good thing. Thank you for teaching. It is a thankless job but the rewards in Heaven will be abundant.

  15. October 13, 2008 10:10 am

    >Hey, Sherry! I haven’t been on blogger in such a long time. I enjoyed reading your posts from the last few months and seeing the pictures of Chloe. I wanted to share my two favorite quotes with you…”To love what you do and feel that it matters – how could anything be more fun?” (Katharine Graham) “One hundred years from now, it will not matter what my bank account was, how big my house was, or what kind of car I drove, but the world may be a little better because I was important in the life of a child.” (Forest Witcraft). I am the mother of three wonderful children, and every year I get to teach roughly 80 fabulous 17 and 18 year olds. I believe I am making the world a better place because I am important in ALL of their lives! God bless!Shanna

  16. October 26, 2008 1:30 pm

    >Hi there – I am a total stranger to you, but stumbled on your blog at some point in the last year and have followed it ever since. I too am a teacher (3rd grade) and a mom to a beautiful 10 month old daughter. She is the love of my life, but I am happy that a part of my life is also dedicated to making a difference in the lives of other kids. It doesn’t make us any less of a mom to work outside the home as teachers, and what better profession to be in as a working mom than one that does allow us so much time at home with our little ones, like summer, winter, and spring breaks? I am happy for you that you too love EVERY aspect of your life, and that your daughter is thriving in hers – I believe this is such a gift! Power to the Teacher Mommies! ;)

  17. October 29, 2008 8:16 am

    >I love your post, and your update to follow it up with scripture. I check in on your blog from time to time. It is crazy-I found your blog from jenn’s blog about their sweet baby Lilly. (Which I also just stumbled upon) Ofcourse, there are no accidents, I believe that God allows these things to happen. I am often prompted to pray for both their family and yours.I just wanted to thank you, for answering God’s calling for you right now. We spent 2 years in prayer on where my 5 year old was supposed to be for kindergarten, and we had several choices of Christian Schools, but God led us to enroll him in public school (which here in Keller is 1/2 day). While I struggled with how this would work on the two days that I worked, I knew strongly that this was God’s plan.His kindergarten teacher is such a wonderful Christian, and has an 8 year boy that apparently went through alot of the same emotional issues that Dalton is going through, and I am so thankful that she had this experience to encourage me along through this new journey in his life.Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you may not know here on earth, what an impact you may have not only on one of your students, but on their parents and family also. Many blessings in heaven will definitely come to you!PS-your daughter is precious!

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